Five Things to Do Before You Ask Someone to Be in Your Bridal Party
Part of what makes wedding planning so fun is the people you involve. Your bridal party’s job is to make the bride’s life easier (and more fun), but choosing who is going to part of your “supporting cast” can be difficult -- particularly for brides with a lot of loved ones. As tempting is it may be to “propose” to your favorite people right after the engagement, be sure to pause and do these five things before “popping the question.”
Consider the Venue
While the traditional bridal party consists of six members, the size will ultimately be determined by your budget and the venue you’ve selected. Big weddings might have bridal parties of eight or more, while smaller affairs might have as little as three people. Some brides opt to go without if the wedding is small enough. Ask yourself what you want and what your venue can accommodate before picking anyone.
Talk to Your Fiancé
Before making any major decisions, be sure to talk to your fiancé about his expectations around the bridal party. Does his family expect his sister, cousin, or other family member to take part? This may not be an easy conversation if you disagree, but it’s important to address these concerns upfront and make your selections accordingly.
Evaluate Your Candidates
Before you “pop the question,” it’s important to think about your potential candidates and where they are in their lives. While being a member of the bridal party is certainly an honor, it’s also a responsibility. If your friend or family member is going through a difficult time financially, think twice before asking them to take on the extra work. You also need to consider the longevity of your friendship. Do you still expect to be friends with this person in 10 years? Do you want to see this person in all of your wedding photos? If you waver on answering these questions, you might want to reconsider.
Pick a Time
Okay, so you have specific members of your bridal party in mind. But when do you ask them to join your dream team? Generally, the more notice you provide, the better. The standard level of advantaged notice is six to eight months, but if you’re saying your “I do’s” in a far-flung destination, you may want to give them a year or more.
Propose (and Get Creative)
It’s finally time to “propose” to your lucky ladies (or gentlemen)! If you want to get creative, take a tour on Pinterest to see some of the coolest ways you could possibly ask someone to be part of your wedding party, ranging from messages slipped into pink-dyed fortune cookies to unique gift baskets brimming with girly goodies.